Forgiveness Isn’t Found, It’s Earned: Doing the Inner Work
“To err is human. To forgive, divine.”
-Alexander Pope
When I posed some upcoming episode ideas on Instagram stories, forgiveness was one of the ones that drew the most attention. And I can understand why, because it’s an incredibly complicated and complex issue for so many of us.
Not only that, but it takes a great deal of strength to forgive someone who isn’t sorry and to accept an apology you’re never going to get. Harder still is forgiving yourself for the things you did when you didn’t know any differently.
Forgiveness is ultimately for ourselves. It’s for us. Many times, the people we are going to either want or need to forgive may not ever hear or comprehend the forgiveness and what it took to get there
Forgiveness isn’t found, it’s earned. It’s hard work. It’s not for the faint of heart. It takes massive strength and new levels of compassion, and forgiveness requires you to stare in the face of your own mistakes and take a hard look at what you may have spent most of your life avoiding.
This episode covers a lot of ground and is going to push you to challenge yourself. Some of the topics covered:
- Examining misconceptions around forgiveness
- The sense of empowerment that comes with forgiving
- Finding purpose and meaning in shitty situations
- Using hope as a catalyst for growth
- Finding gratitude in your current and past circumstances
- Why forgiveness isn’t about the words, but about the feeling
Steps to Take Towards Forgiveness:
- Give yourself time.
- Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel.
- Journalling
- Write a letter to yourself and/or to anyone else you need to forgive.
- Ask questions of yourself: what actions did you take to end up here?
- Have empathy and compassion, step into someone else’s shoes.
- Burning ceremony – once you’re ready to release what you’re hanging onto.
REFERENCES
Room to Grow Podcast episode #117, The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity
Room to Grow Podcast episode #72, Somatic Therapy & How Trauma Shows Up in the Body with Ailey Jolie
Room to Grow Podcast episode #24, Victim Mindset with Christina Montalvo
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